Rules of Engagement
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IMDB rating: 6.20 Plot: Colonel Terry Childers is a 30 year career Marine. When he is ordered to go the American Embassy in Yemen, when it’s learned that things there are starting to unravel. After evacuating the Ambassador and his family, Childers orders his men to fire at the crowd cause he believes that they are armed. Back in the U.S., certain officials fear that there’ll be a backlash against other embassies and Americans, if Childers claim is proven to be true. So they have decided to make Childers a scapegoat. Childers asks Colonel Hayes Hodges, a man whom he knew and saved in Vietnam to defend him. And while there is no evidence or witness that can back Childers’ claim, Hodges feels that he owes it to Childers to do what he can. |
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Catholic Marriage Q's?
My boyfriend and I are not engaged yet, but have decided when we do, it will be a very fast engagement before we get married (maybe a few months). I am Catholic and he is not, but he is fine with having a Catholic ceremony and it is rather important for me and my family. I heard you have to wait at least 6 months after meeting with the priest for the first time before you are allowed to get married. Is that an absolute rule? Or does it depend on the priest, diocese, etc.? I know we have to do a class and that is fine, so I don’t have questions about that.
Also, I had heard a cousin of mine had trouble getting married because they were living together during the engagement. So I have the same question about this – is it only certain priests that have an issue with this, or all of them? Thank you!
To answer some questions I was asked: my boyfriend does know of all the things he’ll have to promise and is fine with them.
We want a short engagement because we have been together for almost three years, so when the time comes, we just want to do it and not stress over details. We also know we want only a few people at the actual ceremoney so it won’t require much planning.
Thanks so much for all of your help and good questions!
Think of it this way. A church is a business. The Priest is the president of the business and makes decisions, along with others, to keep the business going and to make a profit. All businesses need clientele. So, the business needs to attract the people who will pay into the business. Therefore some businesses have different rules than other businesses, depending how much business they need. Get it???
I tried to get married in a local Catholic church but was turned down because the priest said "Think of the church as a club house, and if you have not paid a year of dues, you cannot use the club house" In other words, give us money every sunday and we will marry you for a fee.
Another church I went to refused to even consider marrying us because we lived together, IN SIN.
Luckily there is a Catholic Church near the local US Naval Sub Base and they have no rules there.
seamstress | Jan 26, 2010
Every church will have different rules as far as what their Pre-Cana is. Some require you to set your date 6 months in advance, some as long as 9 months in advance. You typically have a meeting with the Priest and then there are classes and other preparations that you must attend. Marriage is a Sacrament so the Church will want you to follow certain guidelines before allowing you to marrry. I know several people who lived together before marriage and had no trouble getting married in the Catholic Church.
StickyWicky | Jan 27, 2010
Each parish has different rules, some ask for 6 months notice and others ask for anything up to a year. But it’s not set in stone.
If you and your family are involved with the church and you can attend the pre-cana course then you might be able to convince the priest to waive the 6 months notice, but you’re going to have to tell him why you want such a short engagement. Also, it would depend on what days the church is available, the priest is available etc.
Yes, some priests do have a problem with cohabitation and yes, some will ask that you refrain from intercourse during your engagement. But it’s not every priest who does this. My priest didn’t ask us anything about our sexual relations and when we moved in together about three months before the wedding, he didn’t complain either. Most priests are modern enough to know that it’s impossible to expect every couple to be a perfect model of Catholic modesty. That not every bride wearing white is a virgin and not every couple cohabiting are licentious.
One other thing, is your bf aware of the promises that he’ll have to make if he agrees to have a Catholic wedding? 1) Attend a pre-cana course (they don’t tend to be overly religious). 2) He has to promise to not prevent you from practicing your faith. and 3) He has to promise to not prevent you from raising any kids in the Catholic faith, so allowing them to attend Mass and go to Catechism and receive sacraments. It’s best to discuss these things before going to see the priest.
For your other questions, just call up the parish office and ask them about the notice period for weddings.
Good luck.
michelle g | Jan 27, 2010
It does depend on the diocese, but 6 months is pretty standard. The Diocese of Phoenix recently changed it to 9 months there. This it to get you enough time to prepare to receive the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony and to lay a solid foundation for your marriage so that you stay married.
The preparation is far more than wedding planning. It’s learning about conflict resolution, budgeting, natural family planning, parenting, etc. It’s learning what the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony means and how to confer it on each other. And even more than that!
Regarding living together, in general, the Church would much rather that you marry than continue to sin. However, people who are living together have a problem in that they have been openly flaunting their disobedience to Catholic teaching. For this reason, couples who are cohabitating need to either marry very quietly and privately (the priest, a pair of witnesses, perhaps family, no fanfare) OR they need to live apart for some time and end all sexual activity to prove their commitment to the sacredness of the marriage vows. Priests do vary in the intensity of their reaction and in their advice.
sparki777 | Jan 29, 2010
